Things had gotten so hectic at our house that I was running on "Survival Mode" most days. The busy family schedule and lack of routine was killing me! When I created a Weekly Family Routine to plan out all the family logistics and meal/grocery plans for the whole week, my life was forever changed! Read on to see how I did it and how you can too! Bonus: I'm sharing a FREE download of the Weekly Family Routine Checklist with y'all!
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Who's running the show at your house?
Chances are, if you are a Working Mom or a WAHM (Work at Home Mom), you are running the whole show in your house. You set up most of the appointments, do the meal planning, shopping and errands, get the kids where they need to go, and everything else. I'm not throwing shade at any of the spouses out there, but face it: Moms Run The Show. And if you're anything like me, you've found that like Kermit the Frog says, It Ain't Easy Being Green.
I bet you're on "survival mode" a lot, Right?
I feel you: it's a lot. Our family is just like yours:
This is how we were rolling
You know the feeling: things were falling through the cracks. I'd get an appointment reminder call from the dentist that I had forgotten to write down and have to reschedule it. I'd spend a good portion of Sunday on the World's Longest Carpool Text Chain. Dinner many nights ended up being Publix fried chicken and a bag of Caesar salad. ( No disrespect to Publix: y'all rule.) Flying by the seat of our pants had become a way of life. And I was losing my dang mind.
Something had to give
I hit the point where I couldn't take it any more. There may have been tears, I'm not going to lie.
When I finally stopped blubbering, I knew I had to do something to fix this mess. If you know you need to change your life, you naturally consult Oprah, right? That was my first instinct, too! Unfortunatley, neither Oprah or Gayle were available to change my life for me, so I had to do the next best thing: I went to Pinterest.
After lots of reading up on how to manage my family's time and thinking about how I wanted our schedules to look, I decided to commit to A Weekly Family Routine. This means carving out 2 hours once a week (I do Sundays) to dedicate to planning out the whole week in advance.
Two hours? On a sunday? Good luck with that.
I see your smirk and I hear you screaming "Ain't Happening". Simmer down. I swear it can really be done. But first let's answer the obvious:
NO: it doesn't have to be on a Sunday. If you have a couple hours of downtime on Tuesday morning, do your Family Routine then. If you have time while the kids are at volleyball practice, do it then. Just figure out when you have the time and do it. Sunday works for me.
NO: it doesn't have to be 2 hours all at once. I mentally split the project time into two portions: Logistics and Meal Planning.
I often find that I have one hour free on Saturday (while waiting at sports practice), which is when I bang out the Meal and Grocery Plan. Then on Sunday morning/early afternoon, I knock out all of the logisitical stuff.
Remember: I am not the Boss of You. YOU DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU!!
so you do...what exactly??
In my perfect world, I would sit down on my porch with a sweet Spotify playlist, a hot cuppa coffee (or a cold beer, if it's Saturday afternoon...don't judge me), my supplies and get to work. But sometimes I work on the logistics in the car while I'm waiting at tutoring. I've done my Meal Plan and Grocery Planning while sitting on the cold floor in the hallway at a swim meet while waiting for my shorty's next event. What it boils down to is I sit down and dedicate time and effort to planning it all out. You have to commit to it, or it's not going to work.
What are these supplies you speak of?
My favorite part: a supply list! Gather these things up before you even start so you're not running around and wasting your precious time! Here is what I make sure I have:
Supplies: check. Now what?
This is where I created a cheat-sheet list of all the things that have to be organized each week. In our famliy, the Logisitics Plan looks like this
get your game face on: now you have to plan it all out
Alright, you're going to need full brain power for this part. Take a giant gulp of your coffee, focus and get down to it.
Here is how I build-out our week:
COngrats: you now have a plan of attack for the week.
Now you gotta share the love!
Having a Sweet Plan is super, but you've gotta get that info out to your peeps. Make sure everything gets put into your Icalendar/family calendar. I personally input everything into our 3 shared calendars within ICal:
Get your fam on board, toot sweet.
This can also be called the Getting Buy-In stage. If your family has always just played it fast and loose, then you suddenly have this gorgeous master plan, it's gonna take a while to get everyone on board. It'll probably be a love-hate relationship for the first couple of weeks. They will love that there is a plan for everything and things will go much more smoothly. However, everyone in the family has to get used to being accountable to the schedule. Target run scheduled for Tuesday pm? Then everyone better put their stuff on the list by Tuesday morning, or it ain't getting bought.
How's that all working for you, you ask?
After all this, it total Sunshine, Puppy Dogs and Rainbows, right? YES~!! Life is now perfect. It's so great, you're considering writing a Facebook post about your perfect family and your perfect life. Right???
Ok: not 100%. You're going to forget to schedule things. There will be push-back from the famliy about "the crazy schedule Mom made", and maybe more. But trust me when I say: it's way better than it was before, and it will only get better as you keep doing it. The key is to not give up. Listen, we all know the Moms usually run the show at home, so if you have the job, OWN THE DANG JOB.
I own that weekly family routine. you CAN own your family routine, too.
At the end of it all, I can say I'm proud of the way I run this house. Our stuff gets done. Our friends, family and clients know we are a dependable bunch. Our house is clean, our dinners are on the table, and we have the time to spend with each other and on the things that matter to us.
You can do this too! You already run the show...just make it easier on yourself!
Want help getting started with your weekly Family routine?
Are you ready to start? Great! To get you started I've created this FREE downloadable Weekly Family Routine Checklist. I love my followers, so I'm spreading the love to y'all.
Have questions? Let's hear what you have!!
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